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Big Rocks, Small sand
Was reading through my past mails today and I stumbled upon this story once again and I thought it was a nice story to share. Do not know the source so cant credit it but just a word of thanks to whoever came up with this cuz it is really meaningful i think n it helps many to find back a certain sense of purpose:One day, a philosophy professor came to class with a few items: an empty jar (about 2 inches in diameter), a few large rocks, pebbles and a cup of sand. (Pls do spare the logical sense of dimension here, its not the rational sense but the moral sense that is of significance.)
He placed the large rocks into the jar and asked his students if it was full. The students replied with a unanimous "Yes." Smiling, he pour the pebbles into the jar. Again, he questioned the students if the jar was full. The class, getting the hint from the professor, responded in unison that the jar wasnt full. The professor nodded and then pour the sand into the jar. He asked the class again and this time, the class agreed that the jar was full. He then asked: "What does this jar and its contents tell us?"
A student replied: "No matter how busy we are, we can still find time out if we try."
It was a good guess indeed but the real significance is: The rocks represent the important things in life, our family, friends, dreams etc. while the pebbles and sand represent those less important stuff. The jar represents your life, your time. Always take time out for the rocks first; take time out to tend to your most important things in life cuz these are the stuff that matter. The rest can be settled slowly later. Thus, prioritize what is impt and what is not and look into those stuff that really matter.
This story really struck me. All this time I was wondering what to do in the future, what to look forward to... Till now, I still do not hav e perfect ans. but this story has provided me certain guidelines to what I wanna do in the future, to how i want to live my life, my most impt things. These are the points for reflection, the things I should really care for, cuz the rest, the unhappiness, the sadness, the boredom, are all juz a part and parcel of my life, while those impt things that helped me shine, to be myself, that bring happiness, these are the big rocks that help to bring meaning and significance to what I am doing. I do hope I can make the right choices based on this.....
Thinking back, some of my friends are in Thailand slogging out a boring life right now. Hopefully they do understand it isnt the time spent doing boring stuff that is of the matter but the significance of their time with their friends that will bring them through the tough outfield. Nearing the end of my NSF time, I am lucky I do have a car, cuz i keep driving my close friends arnd SG looking for good food. Do not hav much time to spend with them before splitting paths and there are bad times I wan to forget, but at least, i do know for myself, i wan to create as much happy times as possible for those big rocks in my life...
Another BK tale on Monday, January 18, 2010 at 10:57 PM
Trust
Have a few quotes about this issue but couldn't decide which is the best so I shall list some down.
"Trust is a very delicate object. Once you lose it, it can never be replaced."
"Trust is something that takes months to build up but minutes to break."
"Trust is like a mirror. Once shattered, it can never be repaired."
Among all, I prefer the first one, maybe because it is the one I thought of immediately when I came down to this topic. In my life, this has proven to be very true. Given my character, I believe I give anyone I meet the benefit of doubt and place my trust in them before I get to know them. Maybe due to this, when I feel that someone has broken this delicate mirror, it is esp hard for me to ever trust them again.
There was once where I arranged to meet someone for a movie. Moments ago, we were playing DOTA and I stopped to prepare myself. After I left the house and was on my way, I received an SMS informing me that this friend would be late. In the next 10 min, he called and inform me that he will be late for 1 HOUR. OMG. In the end, we rushed to another place to catch another movie. So OMG. I thought got wad lame reason and when I found out, it was really lame. HE WAS DOTA-ING even after I left. OMG. Ever since, whenever I meet up with him, I would REMIND him not to DOTA at least 2 hours before we meet. Guess after this, I am the one always late to prepare for him being late. Haha. But this incident really made me agree with the above statements. It is so easy to lose this belief and so hard to re-build it.
Another more severe incident that left me damn disappointed and angry. Having arranged to meet a certain someone to pass him some instructions, I waited at my office. After 15 min, I was still waiting, waiting for him to finish up his own stuff. Even at lunchtime, I thought I should just delay my lunch and cont waiting so that after passing instructions to him, that guy can knock off. After like 1 hour, I receive a call to help a bunch of guys do something. And within those bunch was the certain someone I was waiting for and guess what? He left for home already. OMG. That made me f*** pissed. Even until now. How can he just leave like that? Even after he apologised, I am still damn angry. Maybe because its his harmless demeanour that made me even more angry. He seemed so trustworthy and reliable, but apparently, he has shown otherwise. This has made me see people in a more negative light. I always believe that anyone should be given the benefit of doubt, so even if I meet someone new, I place quite a high level of trust in him, until they proven that they are scums. However, this 2 yrs has opened up my eyes very widely, to jus how tis society operates. I guess, to doubt others is jus a form of protection for oneself. A fren once advised me to not trust others so easily but I believe that since I want others to trust me, I should trust them first. But, through my many exp, this belief has slowly faded away. Luckily I don hav to work with him for long. And to think that because I wanted to let him knock off earlier and not wait for me, I delayed my lunchtime. Jus so disappointed.
Reflecting upon myself, I really hav tried my best to keep promises but I do still break em sometimes. Although I hate to do it, it seem as if humans jus hav this knack for breaking trust others place in them. Im no different i guess. Its really quite hard to correct this mindset. I should set "Keeping Promises" as my New Year Resolution so that I will not cause disappointment to anyone else. Ok. First step to this resolution: Thou shalt not be late for my appointments. Lol. Hope I can take this first small step after all.
Another BK tale on Friday, January 15, 2010 at 9:12 PM
The Brightest Smile
Today was a very lazy day for me indeed, started to do my clearance and stuff. But there was so much time that I juz lazed around and started thinking about a lot of stuff, like my past, my present, my future. Unknowingly, I arrived at tis quote: The brightest smile is that you put on other people's faces. I feel that tis is so true yet, not many can achieve it. Or maybe, I have been placed in an environment where such a value is not nurtured. All I can rmb from my many experiences are selfish ingrates caring for themselves. Such a cruel world. It seems as if I have been woken up from a fairytale world. Reflecting upon myself, I do hope that I have brought many smiles on the faces of others, not in the joking type but the type when the smile comes from the heart with the warmth of friendship. At my place, I train people and they leave and the cycle continues. Once, I received an SMS of thanks from some. It was like some sort of affirmation of what I am doing is right or beneficial. Those SMSes left me with a great smile, those from the heart, for many days. I really hope to have bring smiles to those around me, especially my friends and family. I believe I have done so, with some of the bestest ideas I have presented to many on their birthdays, I do think many of them have smiled for days when they see my token of efforts. Sebbie and gang going for BK tmr. Im so fortunate to not be in that group. Especially when I had such a close shave to being selected for it. It is not as if I hate the ex, neither do I dislike the place, but its juz that I cant stand the company + outfield after so long, and cant stand it being pushed to work while many undeserving fools get to continue to slack off. So Im really glad that I remained in SG after all. Good luck for this 52nd BK manz... Sebbie and MJ have fun and a safe trip.
Haha, a good way to revive a blog i guess is to have a quote a day/wk. Maybe this is what i shall do.
Another BK tale on Wednesday, January 13, 2010 at 11:22 PM
Celebrated Ang's 21st today! Happy Birthday Ang!! The 21st birthday so deserved all the celebrations it can get. Firstly, it is like the liberation from NS. This is the most important and highly significant reason for the celebration. Next, it is the key to freedom, the gateway to building your own future, totally your own. In addition, it is the cornerstone for a new start in life, setting new goals, looking forward to the new future ahead of you for you to construct. How I wish my 21st birthday will come soon. I so look forward to having a grand celebration. Haha, at first wanted to plan a birthday ball at like Shangri-La, but found it too expensive and impractical. So i shall start planning to have a chalet and a buffet/BBQ dinner with many friends and I will do my best to invite those very specially important ppl and leave out all those useless "friends" I met all this while. Oohh, my 21st birthday. How I look forward to it. May not even have it in SG if I do go study overseas. Then I will have to bring it forward much much earlier. Must have my key!!!!
Thinking back, luckily I met some awesome friends I have during my schooldays. Those irreplaceable people that have touched my heart and changed my life forever. Looking back, I seemed to have grown up quite a bit and its much thanks to those friends I have met that have allowed me to have such a wonderful trip.
A lifetime is like a bus journey. Many people board and many alight. It is very fortunate that I have met many that made this journey wonderful for me. Even if they might alight one day, I will still treasure that journey we once had. Haha, Beany n gang, rmb we still owe each other a nice meal/dinner when we start to work. Make sure u keep ur promise. Jack's Place Black Pepper Steak noted.
Was listening to Mayday's Tu Ran Hao Xiang Ni and it just bring back quite alot of memories of certain people. Wonder how they are doing, hope they are doing well. When I ord, will definitely look them up and catch up. It is time. Haiz, dunno y today like quite nostalgic, must be of the bad day at work. Hope tmr will be a better day.
Another BK tale on Monday, January 11, 2010 at 11:38 PM
Weird to be blogging right now, since it is so late. Had an extremely nice meet-up with 6C friends after so long, including the girls back from overseas. Beany had some improvement in her outfit ^^. She dun look so old like in the past, but her outfit was only some cheap brand from China, though it din look that bad after all. Speaking about clothes, what a headache. Time to flex some leg muscles to go shopping for CNY clothes. Big hole in the pocket plus big headache. Time to look through fashion magazines for cool ideas.
Kushin-bo seemed to have dropped in standard. Was not as fabulous as the last time I was there, though, all e guys managed to eat a BOMB! Now thinking back, I did really eat quite a lot a lot of food, given how little I eat usually. Highlight of the whole thing was BISHI BASHI!! The latest version. Giving handaches to everyone. As usual, zhong is omfg good at it, with his GEPer skills, he thrashed the hoouse. Din know but des is also quite a pro at Bishi Bashi. Haha. Des's tryout at the muscle man machine really was dam funny n laughable, too bad din take a shot at it >.<.
Been doing nth much lately. So tis chance to catch up with old frens was quite a nice outing since its been long since i talked to them. Largely has been confined to sleeping n catching cruel temptations which is dam nice. Need to look for a purpose soon, before i wander off aimlessly to nowhere n rot away.
Another BK tale on Sunday, January 10, 2010 at 12:42 AM
So long since I last typed anything here. So weird that I'm on blogspot again. Just too bored now that I am really not in the mood to do anything more related to work. Just so glad I can get to slack off like this...
So sad that I can't send Toon Hwee off at the airport. Nxt time we see each other again might be year end or even nxt yr, if I do successfully gain admission into an overseas Uni. Thinking back, he was such a nice joker and stuff, never ceasing to bring laughter to the loyal CHS gang. Toon, although you really are a jackass sometime, you are really a great friend. Pls b reading tis. Take care of urself k? Don't lose focus sia and study hard. If not, I will b sure to whack ur head to Mars when I see you return from the States.
Another BK tale on Friday, January 08, 2010 at 11:58 PM
Apparently, all my friends have started blogging again. Even blogs dead for yrs have suddenly come back to life. Since this is the trend, let me join in the fun too. Haha.
Been in the army since April. Considering this, it has been nearly 9 mths since I've enlisted. I'm like nearly halfway there already. Hah! Been thinking back of the time when I was just enlisted. Felt lost, and kind of lonely, since most of my friends were in the January batch. In the end, still survived through all those recruit moments to being in Arty, really miss those friends made back then. This is just the fact, coming tgt through hell for 9 wks and then poof, we are all gone our separate ways again. Now, I'm just enjoying what I can with the friends I have, before all is gone and we pursue our own dreams after army.
Remembering just last yr, arnd this time, my friends and I were having so much fun in Hong Kong. A trip without parents, without anyone to oversee us, total freedom. Thinking of back then, it was like a shopping spree. Moved on to shopping malls after malls, looking at expensive stuff, yet, cheaper then Singapore. Designs of the apparel there were unmatched by those found in Singapore too. How I wish to go back there again, to continue my shopping hunt for a new wardrobe.
Now, just looking forward to Christmas. A season of giving!! A headache period again, have to think of what to buy for friends and family. Haiz... Wonder what I will get this Christmas. Shall get on with making up my wishlist for Christmas le.
Another BK tale on Saturday, December 13, 2008 at 2:58 PM
About me
Boon Kiat
20
Male
In the army
Love to watch anime, read manga during free time
Likes to dota too, only with friends around, kinda hate pub
Really like to ORD soon
Love albums from JJ Lin, SHE, Gary Cao
Really lost on what to do for uni
Friends
Angie An Qing Belinda Benjamin Chun Tsen Desmond Grace Jason Wan Ting Wilson Lee Wilson Tham
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